Margaret Cho for Miss Representation (x)
TW: eating disorders, negative self-talk
Today one of my friends was dress coded for her bra strap showing and so she wrote on the gym shirt that they gave her. It reads “Dress Code: promotes the objectification and sexualization of young bodies, blames the wearer for the onlooker’s perceptions/actions, perpetuates rape culture, and is bullshit” On the back she wrote “You can’t shame me for something I’m not ashamed for”. It was really cool seeing all of the people’s reactions who saw it and I thought what she did was pretty cool.
YES YOUNG WOMEN STANDING UP FOR THEMSELVES
a moment of silence for female characters who get a lot of shit but would be adored if they were male
The actions of 19 Islamic extremists on 9/11 left an indelible mark on America. Today, millions pause to commemorate the attacks’ 13th anniversary, to honor the victims and to remember that all life is special and sacred. But there’s an untold story amid the many speeches and moments of silence — one filled with a different kind of pain, grief and strong sense of loss.
See? This is what feminism is about!!! ❤️❤️❤️❤️
Godammit fuck no! Stop equating the suffering of men (coming from the imperative to stay in a position of power) to the suffering of women in patriarchy - especially women of color and disabled women! That’s insulting and disheartening. Dehumanization, rape and domestical abuse that leads to murder is something that happen essentially to women and is mostly the deed of men and that’s what being in a patriarchy means! And it’s just not the same as being frowned upon by society for a being a man that expresses his feelings. It’s not just a cute concept were both gender have it equally worth because of their shyness and lack of communication!
We don’t have to start a war between genders but we don’t have to make insulting, over-simplifying false equivalencies either.
If you need to cater to someone, cater to your sisters first - ALL OF THEM -, make them feel included - be them lesbians and hairy!! especially if they are -, instead of catering to men.
In feminism, men are really, really, really, really not the priority.
i’ve stopped trash talking comic sans after learning the font is actually one of the only dyslexia-friendly fonts that come standard with most computers and i advocate for others doing the same
In the event that you would like to continue hating Comic Sans, other dyslexia-friendly alternatives include Arial, Verdana, Tahoma, Century Gothic and Trebuchet.
Here are some wonderful facts about Sea World’s orcas!
- The average lifespan of wild orcas ranges from 30-50 years, although some females can easily make it past 80 (a wild orca named J2 or ‘Granny’ is 103 this year!). The lifespan of a Sea World orca is around 25 years, the median age being 9. But at least they put on a good show!
- Don’t worry, collapsed dorsal fins are a common condition, although in the wild only sick or injured orcas have collapsed dorsal fins. All of Sea World’s males and some females have it, it makes them look unique!
- The size of Sea World’s tanks compared to an orca is about the same as a human to a bathtub. Lot’s of room to stretch and move!
- Wild orcas swim 100+ miles a day, they would have to swim around their tank 1,400+ times a day to achieve that. But that seems like a lot of work, and you may see the animals hanging out near the surface of the water or on the bottoms of their tanks for hours. That’s a lot more relaxing than swimming all those miles!
- Sea World gives their orcas a Valium-like drug to stop the whales from acting aggressively towards each other and to numb their minds from their vastly uninteresting concrete tanks. Buying a ticket to Sea World is an excellent way to help them pay for these drugs that they pump their animals full with!
- Many captive orcas show abnormal behaviors like head bobbing, chewing on concrete, and self mutilation by banging their heads into the side of the tank. Obviously just temper-tantrums! Silly things.
- In the wild, there has been only one orca attack. Bad orca! While in captivity, there have been over 100 attacks and 4 deaths. These animals just need more training, it couldn’t possibly be related to their confinement!
- Food is used as reinforcement for tricks. Do a trick, get your dinner. Don’t want to do a trick? I guess you don’t eat tonight you stubborn thing!
See? Sea World isn’t as bad as people make it out to be! Oh, one more fact: for every $1,000,000 Sea World makes, about $600 goes into conservation efforts (about $0.5 a ticket). I’m so glad they care about conservation of the ocean! Amazing work!
If you haven’t realized it yet, this post is 100% sarcastic. It should be obvious, but not everyone understands sarcasm…
Please don’t let this die
I used to be the one who said, “I don’t mind.”
”I’m Asian and I don’t mind”
"I’m a woman and I don’t mind"
"I’m queer and I don’t mind"
- So why don’t the rest of you just lighten the fuck up.
In fact, I’m Asian and I think it’s funny.
It’s just a joke.
You say it because there is a place inside of you that hurts and it shouldn’t.
You think it’s weak. You think, who the fuck cares?
Maybe you say it because you’ve heard it so many times that you’ve become desensitized to hurt, and you accept it as normal.
Or maybe you say it because you’ve made yourself blind to injustices so you never hurt at all.
I laughed. I laughed at the jokes and the stereotypes. I laughed because I made myself laugh, and the sound of it covered up my discomfort, and my shame.
When you laugh enough, laughing becomes second nature.
Not caring becomes second nature. And then, you eye everyone who does care with disdain. They have no sense of humor. They’re too sensitive. You’re better than them. They make the rest of us look bad.
They’re being a bad minority.
They’re so annoying. They’re the reason why people hate feminists.
What I actually meant when I said “I don’t mind” is:
Please accept me
Please think I’m special
Please make me one of you
And what they heard when I said “I don’t mind” is that it’s okay.
It’s okay to laugh at someone for being Asian - my mother, father, my grandparents; my cousins, my aunts, my uncles.
It’s okay to laugh at women - my mother, my sisters, my friends
It’s okay to laugh at queers - my friends, my lovers
Because they’re friends with a PoC, you see, so they can’t actually be racist, especially if their friend is okay with it.
I said it was okay. So it must be.
Everyone else is just oversensitive. Everyone else is just uptight.
What they heard when I said “I don’t mind” is that if you mind, you don’t matter. Your experiences don’t matter. Because they have this friend who said it was okay.
What I meant when I said “I don’t mind”:
I want to laugh with you; I don’t want to be laughed at.
And what I didn’t know was that just because I didn’t mind, it didn’t make me special. When you laughed at those people, that included me, too.
And what they don’t tell you when you say “I don’t mind,” is that from that moment on, you will be championed as a representative of an entire race/gender/orientation/identity. And your words of “I don’t mind,” or “I think it’s funny” will be used as an example, to put down countless others of other races/genders/orientations.
To say “I don’t mind” is not what makes you strong. It takes far more strength to care, and address the issues. It takes courage to look unpopular, to look “humorless” or to be a “bad minority.”
We should mind. It does matter. If more people minded, instead of feeling like they didn’t have to, then maybe people would start seeing that there is a very real problem.
I wonder how long we’ll stay friends on Facebook.
I literally just deleted someone for sharing that picture! Was a coincidence
stop making fun of women for adoring men who are interested in feminism, when men are such cruel fucking bastard 90 % of the time.
Meeting someone who may be interested in feminism, may give hope to a straight woman, who otherwise are surrounded by misogynists who wont even bother listening to her when she talks about feminism.
So yeah, guys dont deserve a cookie, but you should trash the men who think they should get a cookie for it, and not the women who celebrates that not every guy in the world is a huge raging asshole, but some of them may just be semi-decent.
of course the whole: Guys who are into consensual sex <3 is over the top and completely stupid, but making fun of a girl (AND ESPECIALLY WHEN MEN DO IT, I FUCKING HATE WHEN MEN MAKE FUN OF WOMEN “IN THE NAME OF FEMINISM” YOU GUYS SHUT THE FUCK UP FOREVER) for getting excited about a guy who is interested in her political views and who bothers to listen to her, is not okay.
Fellow women, when you mock each other this way, you are focusing your energy on the wrong place. You might as well ask all women to buy drug-rape nail polish, and completely ignore the fact that the only way to deconstruct rape culture is to confront the perpetrators and their supporters.
there is a difference between a legit criticism and just mocking the women around you for fun. Being pro-woman, also means having compassion and understanding for ALL your sisters, and have the insight and ability to give useful criticism when needed, and to direct you criticism at those who deserve it.
It will be the death of my feminism, the day I cheer on a man verbally abusing, using misogynistic slurs, and trashing women, just because I disagree with that womans political views.
I mean honestly why is this even an option for any of you? Would you white women allow anti-capitalist poor white men to trash Obama with racist slurs in between their criticism of the american government?
(the answer better be No, otherwise, motherfucking unfollow me and fuck off)
So why do you cheer on men who call women bitches or say shit like “real women have hairy vaginas and curves” ?
you are socialised to this, letting men shit all over other women, letting them shit all over you, while you just smile, cheer and turn the other cheek.
Fight back, Be Strong, Stay Radical
this has been a FEM-PSA
Attanya: #WeNeedDiverseBooks because I love science fiction and fantasy books, but I’m tired of authors treating dragons and robots and magic as more plausible than black and brown characters
Jennifer: #WeNeedDiverseBooks because… when I was 13 a white girl told me it was selfishthat all of the protagonists in my stories were Latina because she “just can’t relate to nonwhite characters.” She made me feel guilty for writing about people like me.
Aiesha: #WeNeedDiverseBooks because…Black Girls are more than sidekicks or “sassy, ghetto friend”
Facts and Figures About Race/Ethnicity in YA and Children’s Lit:
- 88% of the books on the 2013 Publisher’s Weekly YA Bestsellers were about white protagonists
- 93% of the authors on the 2013 Publisher’s Weekly YA Bestsellers were white authors
- 85% of the books on the 2014 Young Adult Library Services Association’s Best Fiction for Young Adults list were about white protagonists
- 90% of the authors on the 2014 Young Adult Library Services Association’s Best Fiction for Young Adults list were white authors
- 91% of the authors on the 2013 New York Times’s Bestseller Lists for YA and Children’s Lit were white authors.
- According to the 2012 Cooperative Children’s Book Center, only 3.3% of books were about African-American protagonists; only 2.1% were about Asian and Pacific Islander protagonists; only 1.5% were about Latinx protagonists; and only 0.6% were about Native American protagonists. That means over 90% of children’s books surveyed were about white protagonists.
I know so many (white) radical feminists who end up taking this specific criticism badly because, yeah, I get it, they love radical feminism or whatnot. Within our small internet community here on tumblr, some might even argue that they really care about the radfem “community”. So, if a genderist or libfem or somewhere along those lines criticizes the fact that, yeah, most radical feminists are indeed white, it’s totally understandable that WoC like myself are pointed to left and right for “proof” of the opposite. I mean, like I’ve stated many times in the past: I’ve been there. I’ve jumped into those convos. So I get it. You’re offended, because to lots of radfems, there’s nothing truly “wrong” with radical feminism. If you poke and prod a little bit, some will be willing (or more so) to admit that there are a few self-identifying radical feminists who may be a bit problematic for one reason or another, but generally, criticize radical feminism or the small radfem community on tumblr, and you’ll find white feminists jumping left and right to defend it by pointing to the WoC in the “community”.
On my old blog, I pissed off quite a few people with my “white critical” posts and discussions, which, to me, didn’t even get past surface criticisms. But I know that at some point, I mentioned that it is racist to use PoC as metaphoric human shields to protect something from criticism. Of course, one of the things I pointed out was that it was racist to essentially say “I’m not racist if I know some PoC”, but one thing I definitely failed to highlight was this:
It’s 100% racist for white people, especially white feminists, to dictate what is racist just because something PoC/WoC say makes them uncomfortable. And then defend their statements with “but a PoC/WoC said so!”.
Now, let’s specifically look at white feminists who do this. How often is it that many white feminists claim to be “open” to criticisms and thoughts by WoC on race and racism, or want to “examine their white privilege” to “better understand it”? From the dozen-something women I had followed for a while, quite a few. A handful of those women actually sat and listened, while the others? Well, when an actual woman of color would point out something racist, would totally ignore it, and on their own volition spout of what they think is racist. And some of those women have semi-cult followings of other white feminists. So, of course, all these white girls end up getting all dizzied up about what another white girl said was racist, and it becomes a ~tumblr trend~ to ~prioritize WoC~ in feminism, because ~all women experience the same level of oppression in the end~.
Wrong, wrong, wrong, wrong, wrong. There are so many horrible things about this picture it’s not even funny.
If “prioritizing WoC” and “examining their white privilege” was so important to so many white feminists, well, then, sit down and listen, because let me tell you how you can do this: you can sit down and listen. That’s it.
In places like tumblr, where, like in the real world, white bloggers get more followers than PoC bloggers, white feminists will be more popular than WoC feminists. This is truth. I know this for a fact, because I’ve followed SO MANY white feminists who I followed in the past, either because I’ve asked or they’ve mentioned it a few times, have some thousand or two or three thousand followers. Then the few WoC feminists I followed in the first place? Maybe 500. Maybe 400. Whatever number, it’s been less than a thousand, or less than half of what a white feminist can get. And I’m saying this not so WoC can get followers. I’m saying that this is just a fact that most people tend to ignore—especially white feminists. (And by the way? that white privilege you said you wanted to examine? There’s one tiny aspect of it. Take note, ladies.)
So, with this, it’s not surprising (hell, it even makes sense that it would happen) that white feminists then get to have more say and more reblogs and more attention than WoC feminists. They literally have more people listening to them. This is kind of like the real world. (Again, ladies: take notes.) So, a LOT of what they say will be seen and heard, unlike my fellow WoC feminists. Even on topics that they know next-to-nothing about, including racism. And what’s worse is that what they say goes, and it’s super sickening for WoC like myself who really don’t want to hear what is and what isn’t racist from white people. Because yes, that is racist. For white people, they should not and cannot ever claim to know what is and what isn’t racist, because they are white. They don’t know shit about racism. And when they start dictating race and racism, it implies that they think they know more about race and racism than actual PoC.
That’s not possible, because you’re white.
Now, don’t get all “NOT ALL WHITE FEMINISTS” on me, because no-duh, not all white feminists. (There are maybe one or two white feminists who I for sure know are more than willing to listen and examine their white privilege, and also don’t brag about it.) Hence my title. Which means this post is specifically for white feminists, who I refuse to call my sisters just because I’m that bigoted and that title is reserved now for fellow WoC feminists. That, and how many of them are going to cry about how uncomfortable it makes them feel to be called “sister” by a WoC anyway? Lots of ‘em.
Also, white feminists? Save me from your white-savior complex. When you start using women like me as your shields for your oh-so-expansive-knowledge of race and racism (as in, I don’t want to hear it), you’re still being racist.
Hi. I’m white and a feminist and I have a question if that’s ok? If white people can’t say anything about what’s racist and what not, how can we show support to PoC and especially WoC when someone is being racist and there are no PoC around to call them out (or maybe there are but for some reason they find it hard to take a stand - because they’re isolated? - and won’t say anything)? Then what should/could a white feminist do? Can we do something that will let the racist people that what they said or did is not ok - or we don’t condone it - without appropriating the voice of PoC and defining something that is not ours to define? Or shouldn’t we speak out?
Also it seems to me that I know a lot of PoC who seem to have internalized racism (they’ll laugh at racist jokes/pun for instance) and I just don’t know how to react in such situations. A word of advice from you would be greatly appreciated, if that’s ok.